That Mother Lifestyle

Part 2: The Symptoms

Every woman’s body is different therefore every woman experiences pregnancy differently. A Lot of factors can come into play when dealing with pregnancy symptoms, anything from your physical health, stress, mental and emotional health, your age, the support you have etc…my statistics : my body has been through this twice before, I’m 29, I’m healthy mentally, physically and emotionally, I have my stressful and anxious moments but I feel more in control of those feelings way more now than I did a few years ago. My body seems to be a very fertile one, but just really doesn’t enjoy or truly thrive when it comes to pregnancy. I’m obviously feeling so blessed, happy and feeling all the exciting feelings about this pregnancy but what’s going on on the inside of my body physically is the opposite of what’s coming out. Some days it’s hard to mask the pure exhaustion I feel or the headaches that have me so crippled its painful to keep my eyes all the way open…with this pregnancy especially, I have learned to take it one day at a time, remind myself of how hard my body is working and to give myself some grace. 

I thought it would be interesting for our readers, relatable and helpful to go over some symptoms I’ve experienced so far and share things that have helped me alleviate some of those no fun symptoms. Some women can go through a few of these things, some may be like “what the heck?” “That’s a thing?” The thing is, I wanted to be open and raw with just what is going on in our bodies over the 9 months we are pregnant, and for me I have truly experienced all of these things, some all in one day even…let’s dive in.

  1. Nausea – about 70% of women experience nausea at some point during their pregnancy, its most common in the early stages/first trimester but for some can last pretty much all throughout. This has been a big one for me, I started feeling nauseous around a month in. And it came in at full swing, and it got to the point where I ended up going on a prescription prescribed by my midwife because it was so unbearable. I would joke with myself and talking with my midwife that feeling super sick and nauseous was a good sign of a healthy, good pregnancy…haha maaaan anything to make me feel better right?

Here’s a few things that have helped with my nausea and hopefully can help or ease nausea for you : 

  • Traditional Medicinals, Morning Ease (lemon ginger) 
  • Peppermint Tea, Ginger Tea
  • Unisom & Vitamin B6
  • Tums
  • Sour Patch Kids Candy
  • Lemonade (add mint leaves)
  • Saltine Crackers
  • Plain White Rice
  • Essential Oils (peppermint, lavender, tea tree)
  • Peppermint gum or candys
  • Yoga (lots of amazing yoga at home videos on youtube)
  1. Headaches – now this can be caused by a few different things especially in the beginnings of pregnancy when things are starting to amp up. Anything from the tension you’re feeling, anxiousness, having caffeine withdrawals, and all those lovely hormone changes that are going on. I was a victim to it all…if anyone knows me, coffee is life for me! I love it, drink it everyday, I mean I worked in a coffe shop for almost 10 years…sooo my coffee intake went down drastically! Especially feeling nauseous I could barely really even stomach it. I went through some really bad days, where I just had a headache all day long no matter what I did. I realized I was most likely going through some caffeine withdrawal and my hormones were all over the place. I knew it would just take time for my body to get used to all the changes again. 

Things that helped with my headaches

  • Consuming small amounts of caffeine ( I stuck to tea drinks during those bad headache times)
  • Cold towel press to forehead
  • Limiting screen time
  • Blue Light Blocking Glasses
  • Peppermint Oil (either sniffing, rubbing on palms, or in my diffuser) 
  1. Insomnia – sleep can be extremely invasive during pregnancy. With all the physical discomfort, changing hormones, feeling anxious about it all and let’s not forget getting up to go to the bathroom at all hours of the night…sleep just seems like a pure luxury. As my body got into the second trimester I could feel myself becoming more uncomfortable at night and restless when I laid down for the night. And by 830 every night, I was ready for bed…I felt exhausted, my body felt exhausted, but each time I laid down I would stay up for another hour sometimes 2 or 3. It has been a struggle over the last few months but  luckily I have found some things that really have helped!

Things that helped with my insomnia 

  • Unisom 
  • Sleepy Time Tea 
  • Lavender oil in my diffuser 
  • Massage from hubby 🙂
  • Sticking to a nighttime routine (read from bible, skincare routine, etc..)
  • Meditation or breathing exercises before laying down
  • Drinking cold water with lemon right before bed
  • Low stimulation an hour before bed

These three I would say have been my top 3 that I have felt from the beginning until now, and I feel like these are the most common in a lot of pregnant women. With that being said i’m going to make a list below of all the other symptoms I have experienced so far this pregnancy, some with things that have helped and some that unfortunately just are what they are. 

  • Dry skin (putting lotion all over the body, everyday! Especially after showering)
  • Oily hair (dry shampoo)
  • Fatigue
  • Heartburn (alka-seltzer extra strength relief chews)
  • Constipation (miralax and drinking tons of water)
  • Dizziness
  • Lower back pain (heat pad, massage, warm bath, pregnancy belly band)
  • Increased watery discharge
  • Sensitivity to different smells
  • Sensitive and bleeding gums
  • Round ligament pain
  • Braxton hicks
  • Stuffy nose
  • Sore achy breasts 
  • Increased gas

I think one of the hardest things for me has been trying to sleep at night knowing tomorrow when I wake up I don’t know how I will feel. No matter what I did the day before, ate the day before, how much rest I got, how good I may have felt… the next day I could feel so much better, or so much worse. I have had a few days where I have gotten sick and barely ate, and other days I have a great appetite and feel energized. It’s just been hard not knowing how I’ll feel,  and it’s hard to not focus on the bad when that’s mostly what i’m feeling. Being pregnant is a beautiful gift we get to experience, but I think we need to really normalize and be more open to hearing about the not so great things. All people really focus on showing are the happy bump pics, cute baby clothes, and that “mom glow”. I just want all mamas to know you’re not alone when it comes to the side of being pregnant that isn’t all fun and blissful, growing a human is hard as hell! Just thinking about what is going inside our bodies and what our bodies are capable of providing and doing to grow our babies, is beyond any words I can really grasp. Motherhood starts when you become pregnant, you begin to take care of your baby at that very moment, and we should be able to voice all the hardships, feelings, and changes our bodies are going through without feeling ashamed. I hope this brings some sigh of relief, maybe a nod of the head to “yup, I totally had that too!” or “I’ve been going through that too”. I hope I can bring some relief to any mamas out there going through a rough time in their pregnancy with how I’m trying to get through it. I think it’s just comforting to know I’m not the only one, and by sharing my experiences throughout this pregnancy, I can feel better as well.